26 Aug LONG READ: A GUIDE TO BEING YOUR OWN MUSE
Frida Kahlo, accomplished artist and extraordinary woman started to battle life’s challenges when Poliomyelitis struck her at age six. That was the beginning and the least of her struggles. In the 1990s, long after her death, she was an icon for several minority groups, the feminist movement and the LGBTQ movement. The major lessons in her life story point out one constant truth; no matter how low, the resources to propel any individual to the heights they want to reach are vested in them. This list is not about shutting people out or living life alone. Rather, it’s a step-by step guide to looking inward, getting to know and appreciate your life and using that inner glow to spark up your life and bring joy to your loved ones.
Start by loving your life. Once you’ve accepted that you’re the curator of your life, you understand why you need to know your pace first before trying to keep up with the world. Gift yourself a life of freedom and independence, only do what you love and let your heart lead you. And remember, love is always hard. Even self-love.
“Work for a cause, not for applause. Live life to express, not to impress.”- Anonymous.
Live a life of luxury. Andre Leon Talley defines luxury as being able to “take control of one’s life, health and pursuit of happiness in a way that is joyful.” You may redefine that, choose what luxury means to you and pattern your life accordingly but the point is, if you truly love your life, it should show in your living it.
“She made it look easy. That in itself was one of her greatest talents.”-Stefanie Varveris.
Manage your Finances Expertly. You are truly wealthy when you can accrue material resources without debt or guilt. The leverage that money provides cannot be overemphasized and it is a fact everyone is aware of; make an honest review of your financial life, find ways to utilize your resources maximally and conscientiously prepare for the life you desire.
“They say money cannot buy happiness but everyone wants the chance to prove it for themselves.”-Anonymous.
Create your signature style. Style is not only evident in the way you dress. It shows in how you choose to live and your manner of approach in all things. When you begin to dress and act for the life you desire, it draws closer than you think.
“Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street. Fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.”- Coco Chanel.
Provide yourself a personal sanctuary. Usually, your first haven is your home and if you don’t have that yet, you at least have a room. It is important to make your personal space one of comfort and beauty, no matter how frugal. It does wonders for your wellbeing.
“We shape our dwellings and afterwards, our dwellings shape us.”- Winston Churchill.
Don’t just look good, feel good. Eat right, exercise well, sleep well and challenge your body. You have to attempt to push your body as far as your mind will go.
“The first wealth is health.”-Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Choose your relationships wisely. The last thing you want after building your life so painstakingly is to have someone walk roughshod all over it. Know when to love and when to leave. Be a friend, be authentic and the right people will come and stay.
“The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.”- Neale Donald Walsch.
Live Indulgently. Never forgo life’s simple pleasures or undermine the effects of indulging in rejuvenating self-ritual. Every successful individual has at least one.
“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”- Anne Lamott.
Expand your horizons, travel the world. Our universe is expanding every day and we cannot tap into any of the endless possibilities that exist if we remain on one spot. It is important, even necessary to see, to learn and to grow.
“Jobs fill your pocket but adventures fill your soul”- Jamie Lynn Beatty.
Find your ’Je ne sais quoi’. Je ne sais quoi means ‘I don’t know what’ and implies a certain indefinable quality that sets you apart and makes a way for you. Be original, know yourself, and see Paris.
“There is magic in all of us. Find it”
Celebrate yourself, celebrate life. It wouldn’t do to be so self-accomplished and not celebrate with friends and loved ones. Our lives end up as a sum of all these moments.
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”-Oprah Winfrey.
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